Why Does the RSVP Card Have an “M”?
The tradition comes from older formal invitation etiquette, when courtesy titles were commonly used when addressing guests.
Rather than printing every possible title, invitation designers traditionally printed the letter “M”, allowing guests to complete it themselves.
Although this format remains common on formal wedding invitations, modern invitation etiquette has become much more flexible.
Today, many couples choose simpler wording such as “Name,” “Guest Name,” or “Please reply with your name.”
What If You Don’t Want to Use a Traditional Title?
You don’t have to worry.
If the invitation uses the traditional “M” format, simply write the title you prefer. If you don’t use a courtesy title, you can generally write your name on the line instead.
The purpose of the space is ultimately to make it clear who is responding and who will be attending.
Don’t Forget the Rest of the RSVP
When completing an RSVP card, carefully follow the host’s instructions.
Depending on the event, you may need to:
- Confirm whether you will attend
- Indicate how many invited guests are attending
- Select a meal
- Provide dietary information
- Answer other questions from the host
The most important thing is to return the RSVP by the requested deadline so the hosts can finalize their arrangements.
The Simple Answer
So, what does the “M” mean?
It is simply the traditional beginning of a courtesy title such as Mr., Mrs., Ms., or Miss.
It may look unusual on a modern RSVP card, but there’s no mystery behind it. It’s an old piece of formal invitation etiquette that has simply survived into modern times.
And the next time you see that little “M” on an invitation, you’ll know exactly what it’s asking for.
